Losing weight after childbirth is not a competition, take care of yourself first! 3 tips for breastfeeding and eating comfortably after childbirth, slimming down, beautifully and healthily

"A certain actress quickly regained her good figure one month after giving birth, and her belly is as flat as a girl's!" Open newspapers and magazines, and you will see all these news that drive mothers crazy after giving birth. This world is too harsh on mothers. Pregnancy is already a hard thing, and after giving birth, you still have to worry about losing your body shape. Family medicine doctor Xu Shuhua talks about the physical and mental changes after giving birth in his new book, and gently calls out to all mothers: "You have completed an incredible life event. You should be proud of yourself, not love yourself."

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I once felt stuck in my role as a woman, and I deeply realized that the path of "living your own life" is not smooth for everyone! In her new book, "Dear, You Can Still Be Yourself," family physician Xu Shuhua uses empathy and gentle words to help women who are at a major turning point in their lives to smoothly overcome various physical and mental difficulties.

Especially the great marks left by the mother after the battle, and the physical and mental changes of women after childbirth. The following is the story of a couple, Sun and Matt, and is analyzed with female psychosomatic medicine, interspersed with physical and mental health knowledge, to give you the warmest care and make women happy to be born as women.

Sun pointed at his belly which was still bulging despite his strong inhalation and asked the man next to him: "Why hasn't your belly gotten smaller after so long? There's obviously not much fat on it!" "No, there's no bulge, I didn't even see it!" Matt used the out-of-sight, out-of-mind tactic to get the better of you. "Yes, look. My stomach is flat when I lie down, but it bulges out when I stand. Is it because my abdominal fascia is loose..."

"It will get better in the future, stop looking at me!" "Humph! So perfunctory! If giving birth to a child will make your penis two centimeters shorter, then do you want to give birth?" Leaving Matt speechless, the sun moved to the battle position unhappily, ready to start a solid day of breastfeeding.

"The actress only gained two kilograms during her pregnancy, and her limbs are so slender that you can't tell she's pregnant!"

"XXX quickly regained her good figure one month after giving birth, and her belly is as flat as a girl's!"

"After trying to have 3 babies in 4 years for her young husband, the actress's condition deteriorated rapidly after giving birth, and netizens couldn't bear to watch!"

"XXX's appearance has changed drastically since giving birth! She was originally cute and adorable, but now she looks super old... Netizens are upset: The goddess can't go back!"

Open newspapers and magazines, and you will see news all over about these postpartum mothers who are dying. This world is so harsh on mothers. Pregnancy is already hard, and after giving birth, you have to worry about your body shape. Newspapers and magazines have praised the beauty of female stars and celebrities who take good care of their babies without gaining weight, but the deterioration is like a bolt from the blue, and the descriptions are horrific. It is a good thing that they don't gain weight, but it is really wrong that they can't go back to the original size after giving birth.

It is said that pregnant women are the most beautiful. The gentleness, grace and kindness that women naturally exude when pregnant may be really charming, but I believe that there are not many people who can truly appreciate the big-bellied frog or MM chocolate. The other S-curve in the pregnancy photo does present a different charm, but the edematous limbs and facial lines should still be modified as much as possible. No matter whether it is really "real" or not, only by retouching the photo can you see the "slimness" and "beauty"!

With the delivery completed and the baby gone, my belly became like a deflated ball, so loose and flabby that it made me depressed. Before I knew it, the corners of Mommy's mouth began to droop like her belly. If you don't undergo surgery, your flat belly will never return. The sun was very puzzled. Why didn’t any of the myths that happened to those female stars happen to me?

Stretch marks that cannot be smoothed out, oil that cannot be removed, soft and sagging breasts, separated rectus abdominis, and a belly that can't wait to bulge out after eating, and can't be flattened no matter how hard you breathe, and even a belly button that looks like a hernia, not to mention more serious problems such as urinary incontinence, hemorrhoids, and uterine and bladder prolapse, these are the real disasters.

It’s just that the “fact that it’s very difficult to go back” is covered up by seemingly flexible media reports, which makes mothers who have actually experienced it feel that there is obviously a gap between reality and ideal. At a certain moment, the sun thought of his mother. When I was a child, I saw a scar on my mother's belly.

"Mom! Why is your stomach hurt?" Little Sun asked curiously.

"Oh! This ~ When you were very small, you lived in my belly! When you grew a little bigger, your belly couldn't hold you anymore, so you had to come out! But your mom didn't have the strength to give birth to you, so I had to ask the doctor to make a cut in your belly so that you could come out!" "It must have been very painful for you! There must have been bleeding!" Little Sun frowned and closed his eyes, not daring to imagine. "It was painful then, but it doesn't hurt now! This way you can come out of my belly smoothly. I love you so much!"

The disturbing emotions began to calm down.

These changes and traces on the body are probably the marks of the great mother's battles. You have just experienced so much pain and changes, there is really no need to push yourself!

"Mommy Sun, it's time to breastfeed the baby!" The nurse's voice on the other end of the phone suddenly brought Sun back to reality. "I won't watch it anymore! I won't watch it anymore! This is media bullying!" Give yourself some time to recover, and move forward steadily and happily!

Regarding the physical and mental changes after childbirth, you can do this...

Several studies have shown that there is a positive correlation between dissatisfaction with body image and perinatal depression, and it is also a risk factor for postpartum depression. Pregnancy is a period when weight and body shape change in a short period of time, and these changes may cause dissatisfaction with one's body image. Furthermore, if expectant mothers continue to judge themselves by pre-pregnancy standards during pregnancy or after giving birth, it will have a negative impact on their body and mind. It is worrying when women hate their bodies after childbirth, as this means a certain loss of self-confidence or self-denial, which must also imply a crisis in the relationship between the couple.

Try thinking of it this way!

(1) You can give yourself some buffer time

Most women lose about 5 kg after giving birth, which includes the weight of the baby, the placenta and the amniotic fluid. In the first week after delivery, the edema problem will gradually improve, and you will be lighter, but the fat stored during pregnancy will not disappear on its own. After that, you can lose a maximum of 0.5 to 1 kg per week through diet and regular exercise. During pregnancy, your body is changing for a full nine months, so don't let an unrealistic schedule affect your mood.

(2) Seek medical advice

If postpartum body image is a significant source of stress that is interfering with your life, work, and relationships, consider seeking medical advice.

(3) Love yourself, the most important thing

A rich heart, the support of a partner and lovely children may allow us to accept such changes with a smile. It's good to be able to get by and be open-minded, but some people with strict standards may just not be able to accept it. If using the power of plastic surgery can help you regain your self-confidence, that's fine too.

The point is, you have accomplished a major life event with courage and determination, and you have every reason to be proud of yourself, not to dislike yourself.

Professional doctors show you how to change your weight after childbirth

Concept 1: How much will I weigh during pregnancy due to normal physiological changes?

First, the baby + amniotic fluid + placenta, about 5 kg

The mother's uterus and breasts increase during pregnancy + increased blood volume + increased water content is about 4.3 kg

The amount of fat gained by the mother herself is about 3.2 kg

Therefore, it is normal to gain 11 to 12 kilograms during pregnancy. On the day after delivery, your weight will drop by about 5 kilograms (baby + amniotic fluid + placenta). One week after delivery, as the edema problem improves, you will lose a few more kilograms. The rest is the fat that we need to eliminate gradually.

Myth 2: Will I gain that much fat?

In order to protect the baby, as the mother's pregnancy progresses, the secretion of estrogen in the body will gradually increase, which can easily lead to the accumulation of subcutaneous fat.

Concept 3: How much weight gain during pregnancy is normal?

According to the National Institute of Medicine (IOM), weight gain in the first three months of pregnancy should be limited to between 0.5 and 2 kg, and then about 0.5 kg per week. If you already have obesity problems before pregnancy and gain a lot of weight during pregnancy, it will certainly be relatively difficult to lose weight after giving birth.

Concept 4: Tips for losing weight after childbirth?

one. Breastfeeding: You can consume an additional 800 calories a day, so don't skip meals.

Women who breastfeed need an additional 450 to 500 calories per day, but they can be picky about what they eat and avoid processed foods (microwave meals, fast food, cakes, etc.). They can also eat protein-rich foods because the human body needs to expend more energy to digest protein than other types of nutrients, so it can help reduce hunger! High-fiber foods can increase satiety and promote intestinal health, and are also a good helper.

two. Exercise: The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) recommends that as long as the pregnant mother has no complications, she can receive exercise training during and after pregnancy.

three. DASH diet: Studies have shown that the DASH diet can help women lose weight after childbirth, making you thin and healthy. The following are the characteristics of the DASH diet:

Eat foods rich in fiber, such as fruits, vegetables, and whole grains.

Eat low-fat or fat-free dairy products.

Eat lean meats, such as poultry.

Choose healthy sources of fat, such as beans, nuts, and vegetable oils.

Limit foods high in saturated fat, such as red meat, coconut oil, and palm oil.

Limit sugary foods and drinks.

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