Want to lose weight in your heart and enjoy it with your mouth? Every sentence hits the nail on the head, giving you the cruelest wake-up call for those who keep shouting about losing weight.

Being good-looking at 20 is luck, but being good-looking at 30, 40, or 50 is a real skill! The following are all extremely face-slapping, blunt and to-the-point suggestions without being polite. Compared to the numerous weight-loss methods, perhaps these suggestions can make you, who want to lose weight in your heart and enjoy it in words, face your life honestly.

If you keep saying you want to lose weight but give up on yourself in action, repeatedly put your exercise plans on hold, indulge in filling your stomach with greasy junk food, and turn a blind eye to the calories in food, then it is not obesity that has caused your bad life, but your lack of self-discipline and sincerity towards life.

"Everyone thinks being fat is the most painful, but in fact being fat is the most enjoyable. You don't have to restrain yourself or limit yourself. You just have to bear the consequences yourself. If you allow yourself to spend the rest of your life being bloated, it is actually a kind of irresponsibility to yourself."

People who take themselves seriously don't do whatever they want, but stop themselves when they know they shouldn't do something. Learning to say "no" to delicious food is also the meaning of growing up.

Don't eat the fattest and use the worst resources at your best years.

Never complain that life has wronged you. You can certainly believe things like "Fat girls can also be super cute, they look cute when they are soft and chubby" and "Greasy fat people are also reliable." But you have to know that your best-looking and cutest look is when you are in high spirits.

Although it is impossible to fully assess a person's essence based on his or her figure and appearance, it does, to some extent, indicate a person's attitude towards life, lifestyle, character upbringing, aesthetic taste, and ambition for an ideal life. After all, humans are visual animals. There is a saying circulating on the Internet: Never eat the fattest, spend the worst, and live the cheapest at your best age. A woman's waist circumference and belly are the dividing line between a young girl and an old lady. Before anyone asks you how you are doing, your figure actually reveals everything.

What kind of person you are, your body shape speaks for you before you introduce yourself.

Many fat people don't really like themselves. Even if you say you don't care, you are prone to self-doubt in the eyes of people around you. Opportunities also choose people. They will avoid those who are not confident enough and are timid in doing things. It's not hard to understand why the workplace prefers people who dress well. We all like to have colleagues who are well-dressed and have makeup on say "good morning" to us when we arrive at the company in the morning. Going out to discuss business with such colleagues will inexplicably increase your confidence.

Never underestimate those who dress themselves well. People who still set high standards for themselves under the pressure of work and competition are tough guys. That not only means that they love life and are diligent and self-disciplined, but also reflects their life attitude of not procrastinating, not indulging, and not admitting defeat. It shows that they devote part of their time and energy to self-improvement.

Beauty is never a small matter, but a big skill

So, don't underestimate a beautiful woman, especially those women who you can see traces of time on their faces but are still dazzlingly beautiful. From their figure to their face, from their diet to their fitness, they all possess an extremely valuable quality - self-discipline. It is not difficult to be born beautiful, but after spending time with the passing of time and fighting against the vicissitudes of life, that beauty remains strong and is not defeated. Being beautiful for so many years is enough to show a woman's resilience, not her willfulness. Never complain about a woman: Aren’t you just pretty? What’s so great about that! Being good-looking at 20 is luck, but being good-looking at 30, 40, or 50 is a real skill!

Please give the person you like a reason to get close to you

If you have ever lost love because of obesity, you may understand many years later that the deep love turns into helplessness little by little. Many times, it is because you do not love yourself first, so he can't continue to love you. This is often not his fault. You always say that you want to find someone who loves your soul. In fact, we know better than anyone that without a good-looking appearance, it is difficult for anyone to really be willing to look past your appearance and appreciate your extraordinary inner qualities. Who wouldn't want to take a second look at that good-looking person?

Sometimes, dating is quite cruel to fat people. If you want a handsome guy to be your boyfriend, you must first cultivate yourself into a fairy who walks with the wind. If you want a beautiful girl to be your girlfriend, first of all you have to be a boy with a clean and fresh appearance. Otherwise, the other person would have to be very kind-hearted to be able to see through your sloppy appearance and tar-barrel-like body and appreciate your warm and kind heart.

Defend your body to the death and make yourself more beautiful, not only because it can eventually help you win favor, but also because in the process, you shape a better self.

However, in the final analysis, the purpose of striving to be beautiful is not to be worthy of someone.

Not long ago, I was invited to attend a women's salon. The organizer of the salon was a 30-year-old single beauty. She has long hair like a waterfall, light makeup, colorful feathered clothes, bright eyes and white teeth. She looks like a classical beauty who walked out of a story. We held a cup of tea and chatted for a long time in her studio where mist was rising and fragrance was lingering. Only then did we realize that behind every beautiful and strong woman, there is a past that is too painful to look back on.

That year, she discovered that her boyfriend, whom she had been in love with for many years, showed signs of cheating on her with a man who was younger and more handsome than her. She was not convinced, so she signed up for yoga and body shaping classes, had hyaluronic acid and Botox injections, renovated her entire wardrobe, and bought fifty lipsticks. However, it still does not change the fact that the relationship has ended in a breakup.

I asked her, how did you get out of it?

She said that it was the sweating profusely in the gym every night and the grand and long-lasting pain that finally made the pain of losing love less clear. Finally, on the day when she got her abs, she looked at the new herself in the mirror and found that nothing could defeat her. The process of striving to become beautiful made her diligent and self-disciplined. These good qualities also contributed to her later career success.

Only a self-disciplined life has the possibility of using cheats

Now that she is successful in her career, she can fly to a tropical island to swim if she is unhappy. She has seen the snow on Mount Fuji and the white moonlight of Tokyo Tower, and also encountered a flickering legend in the forest of the southern hemisphere. She lives a more relaxed, open and free life. Because of her understanding of happiness, she is no longer confined to a small roof or a small circle, and she actively embraces the bigger and broader world.

"When the world teaches women to be more beautiful, to cater to the mainstream values ​​and aesthetics of straight men, and to remain competitive in the marriage market, I just want to say to my female friends that you strive to be beautiful not to be worthy of someone, but to live out the splendor, abundance and freedom of your own life. If you bloom, you won't care when the breeze comes."

Of course, becoming beautiful will win you more opportunities and more tickets. But when it comes to love, just because you have a stunning appearance does not give you the right to lifelong happiness. What does it take to have a good relationship? You need to have the ability to choose and judge before marriage, the ability to manage relationships after marriage, and the ability to handle crises and resolve pain when faced with changes. Besides that, a bit of luck is also needed.

Those people around me who are dedicated to becoming more beautiful, whether they are in their twenties, thirties or forties, are all women who have high standards and strict requirements for their faces and figures. They live more confidently, calmly and freely. No matter what state their relationship is in, they will not give up their exploration and love of life.

"You work hard to be beautiful, not to be worthy of someone. When you work hard to be beautiful, the whole universe will receive the message and attract better things to you."

If you don’t believe it, try it.

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