There is no such thing as natural beauty after you are thirty! A beautiful person can teach you more than just beauty.

When I was twenty years old, I had no idea what good looks were. I feel that I have a beautiful appearance and I look radiant even without too much makeup. Now that I am 30 years old, I realize that whether I look good or not is not determined by God, but by myself.

I was shopping in the mall with my bestie that day and saw an outstanding beauty. She was tall and slender, with delicate features, fine skin, and fair complexion. She exuded a fresh temperament. It can be seen that she is not born beautiful, but has managed her beauty well.

I stood there stunned. I was always so confident, but suddenly I felt inferior. I lowered my head and looked at myself. Five years after graduation, I gained seven or eight kilograms. My face, which used to be an oval, has become a small round one due to my own eating. My skin, which was once so smooth and delicate that I was most proud of, is now becoming duller.

I was depressed the whole day. My best friend said, she’s just a good-looking woman, is it necessary to make such a fuss? But just good-looking? No! Never underestimate a good-looking woman, especially when you know she is not young, but still stunningly beautiful.

Because I have been beautiful and ugly, fat and thin, I understand very well those good-looking women. From their figure to their face, from their diet to their fitness, they all possess an extremely valuable quality - self-discipline. They all show that they cherish themselves highly and have high standards and high demands.

It is not difficult to be beautiful, but to stay beautiful day by day and for many years is enough to show a woman's seriousness and persistence. I have a friend who I have known for ten years. Over the years, no matter whether she got promoted at work or had a happy marriage and children, I never felt envious at all. The only thing that makes me envious is that in the past ten years, except for the period of pregnancy, her weight has always been maintained between 48 and 50 kilograms.

She is 169 cm tall, and her figure is basically on par with other female stars. Last year she was pregnant and we rarely saw each other, until the beginning of this year, when the baby was three months old, a few of us close friends made a dinner date, and we were scared when she showed up.

I was about to complain about her: "Haha, look, a woman who has never weighed more than 50 kilograms has to admit defeat after giving birth. Finally, we can be proud of ourselves."

This is how we, a few very good friends, get along with each other: competing in beauty, wealth, and ambition. But rest assured, although we may attack, we will never criticize each other secretly. That’s why we have been friends for so many years and have been able to support each other all the way and become better people.

As a result, my best friend, who I thought would have a horrible figure, had returned to her original figure not long after giving birth.

We were collectively frustrated and couldn't help but sigh: Why is God so unfair that some people can get a good figure so easily?

She got angry when she heard the word "easy" and asked us, "You don't think that a woman's beauty at the age of 32 is still a gift from God. Why didn't you say it was easy when I was in the gym every day and felt like life was meaningless? Why didn't you say it was easy when I was doing postpartum yoga and was tortured to tears by my personal trainer? To be honest with you, a good woman doesn't weigh more than 50 kilograms. It's not because of talent, but because she works against herself."

Later, I followed her to experience her day, and finally admitted that beauty is not a trivial matter at all, but a major skill. Just eating until I am 70% full and resisting the urge to eat delicious food is already a huge challenge for me, not to mention controlling my food intake and insisting on running, swimming and other fitness programs day after day.

Sometimes, when I see her doing the stick pose even when watching TV series, I realize that there is really no such thing as natural beauty after the age of 30. A good figure is soaked with sweat, and beauty is the result of persistence in good habits.

If a woman can control her mouth and move her legs, what can she not do or dare not do?

A colleague once asked me, "Have you noticed? Whether in our daily lives, in the entertainment industry or among celebrities, those who can control their body shape are most likely to be successful in whatever they do."

Of course, that is because behind this hard-earned beauty lies a person's self-discipline, patience, persistence, restraint, and high demands, and these qualities are enough to make a person even more powerful no matter what they are used for.

Never underestimate a beautiful woman. Because you never know how much amazing self-discipline is hidden behind this beauty.

For example, Shu Qi has maintained a girlish figure in her forties, but did you know that she insists on standing for half an hour after meals, and has been standing for many years? It is this kind of woman who can still capture the hearts of men in her forties. Behind her charm lies a ruthlessness and fighting spirit that is difficult for us to detect.

Ariel Lin, in her thirties, still looks very girlish. But did you know that she has always insisted on going to bed early and getting up early over the years? In today's world where staying up late has become a habit, how many people can go to bed at nine o'clock in the evening? Behind her girlish appearance lies a woman's strong self-discipline.

No wonder the fashion queen Chanel said: "Only by exercising self-discipline can a woman take back everything that belongs to her."

There is also a more advanced kind of beauty: being well-read and elegant. Some women's facial features are obviously not outstanding, but when they stand in a crowd, their elegance is immediately apparent.

I think the secret of a woman with temperament is nothing more than the ambition for beauty deep in her soul. It's not just about physical beauty, but also about cognitive beauty. If you knew how many books she has read, how much of the world she has seen, and how much life she has experienced behind her so-called temperament, you will find that beauty has only ever belonged to those who are willing to take themselves seriously.

Now, whenever someone asks me how to become a better woman, I tell her: Start by managing your beauty. You don't have to meet any certain standards of beauty, nor do I mean for you to get plastic surgery, but rather strive to make yourself the best you can be. You don't have to compare yourself with others, but you have to compare yourself with yourself, and see a better self every day, one that is energetic, hardworking, and should not be underestimated.

Only this ability to manage your beauty can bring you to a broader realm. You will find that you can go further through the good habits developed because of your beauty. Not only should you not underestimate a beautiful woman, but you must also make friends with her, because what she can teach you is far more than just beauty.

This article is from Happiness Culture "Being beautiful is about surpassing yourself, no matter how perfect it is: You don't have to create the path to becoming a queen, but you must live the best version of yourself! 》